Here are some principles to set boundaries and find meaningful connection with people during this pandemic holiday season.
Conflict is inevitable; we have to get better skilled at handling it. How are we supposed to solve the big problems we face if we run away or can’t disagree without resorting to tantrums and tirades?
Using recognition and understanding to frame where others are coming from allows us to take a step back from the intensity of our own experiences, and allows us to appreciate the experiences of others.
Using dignity as a framework to navigate conflict and analyze behavior requires a radical shift in thinking. Here’s how we start.
Lots of schools experiment with curricula to teach kids social and emotional skills. But what tends to happen is, teachers are thrown in front of a group of middle schoolers and it’s assumed they know what to do. “Owning Up” is distinctive in that it starts with training teachers, helping them learn to identify and manage their own emotions.
There’s a small act we can all do to make us act and feel better: knowing the difference between talking behind someone’s back and venting. And then holding ourselves accountable to make sure our actions reflect our values.
Dignity gives us a framework to think about ourselves and others, motivation to reflect, and a constant reminder that other people matter, an idea that should be the baseline we bring to all of our interactions.